Are Girly Thoughts Sabotaging Your Success?

By Ted

I have long believed that many women have a much harder time being successful in our society than do men. Despite all our advances in equality, there are still many, often unspoken ways in which women are held back.

What’s worse, our society still perpetuates many women to have “girly thoughts” that further keep them from success.

Dr. Patricia O’Gorman seeks to help women overcome their “girly thoughts” by giving women 7 steps to personal power in her new book entitled, The Resilient Woman. She says that “girly thoughts” are any thoughts that cause women to feel as “less than”.

These thought patterns are also part of the reason many women struggle to lose weight and/or have an unhealthy relationship with food.

This book seems like a great resource for any woman who feels “less than” or feels like they are being held back in life.

The Resilient Woman is available on Amazon.

Do you think society still holds women back?

Have you struggled with “girly thoughts” that cause you to feel “less than”?


  1. O.

    I think it’s nature not nurture and that’s an uncomfortable thought for those that think that if you give a little girl a chemistry set instead of a doll something magical is going to happen to her.

    You think of someone like Lindsey Vonn. Olympic gold medal skier. Has been through so many injuries that would make most people faint….. And then she does something like decided to date Tiger Woods AFTER everything has come out about his cheating. And people are thinking “Is she crazy!?”

    But (some) women will do things like that because they don’t want to be lonely. Their success in other aspects of life aren’t going to stop them.

    I also hate the notion that women have to do things “men’s way” to be successful. That there is something inferior about that which is feminine.

    If some guy tells me I belong in the kitchen…. I say “Great the kitchen made millionaires out of women like Martha Stewart and Rachael Ray”

    • Morgie

      I feel the same way. Often times the stereotypical woman is someone completely opposite to myself, yet my sister fits it to a T. You are who you are!
      I also find the concept that being feminine is inherently wrong offensive. We don’t need to emulate men to be successful. Neither is it necessary to put down femininity — “barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen” is my life’s dream, but that doesn’t mean I’m just a bimbo holding back women’s success in the workplace. We’re different from men, and we should use it to our advantage.

  2. Spectra

    I’ve noticed this a lot, mainly because I work in a female-dominated industry and my husband works in a male-dominated industry. The dynamic between the two workplaces is as different as can be–men simply do not care all that much about being liked by their coworkers and they don’t care if they’re fatter or thinner than other men. With women, we’re always trying to avoid stepping on toes and people get catty with comments about others’ weight and appearance. Fascinating.

    • Ted

      It sounds like in your workplace, where women have a great chance for advancement and empowerment, they are holding each other back by being catty about appearance etc. Perhaps this is an expression of their own insecurities? Women have a hard enough time and it’s sad when they tear each other down.

  3. Tim

    Good concept for the book. Couldn’t agree more that women are still held back in this society. While I see that associating “girl” with “less than” may very well be the author pointing out society’s holding back of women, wouldn’t continuing that false dichotomy (even in parody) create a general negativity towards the concept of “female”?

  4. Kristen

    I’m not sure I like the idea of “girly thoughts”…sounds a little young, somehow. I love that she talks about self-care though. I agree that setting boundaries and taking care of ourselves are huge parts of health AND, as you say, weight. Good stuff for sure.