For the past three months I have been very ill with stomach issues and went from 112 pounds to about 105 pounds at 5'2.
Everyone says how good I look and it makes me feel that I looked bad before. It really makes me mad and sad because i'm really sick and feel terrible, and it is sad that people are complimenting on me losing weight but ignoring the fact that i'm sick.
Does anyone think there's a problem with this? Anyone had the same thing happen?
That's terrible. That just goes to show you how superficial people can be: If you're sick the focus should be on getting you healthy, not how good you look because you're sick and your body can't hold on to nutrients.
If being healthy means you gain that 12 pounds back, your body would be MUCH better off that way. A healthy body is a happy body, not a sick body that "looks" good.
I hope you get better!
ReplyYes thank u. It really makes me mad that people say these kind of things. Our society is sad when it comes to body image
ReplyA lot of that goes back to perception. And people really don't realize how their view can be skewed by perception.
In this case... If a certain image is presented to people enough times with a positive label attached to it, people will percieve any image that deliniates from that images as negative.
Also men especially don't seem to understand what an eating disorder actually is.
Do you know how many men I have heard say "skin and bones on a woman is gross!"
But they also think the word anorexia MEANS "skin and bones". They don't understand that it is a progresive disease whereby the girl that "looks hot" could be in the early stages of the disease. And that look that they like could be early anorexia.
Case in point... After Brittany Murphy's death I heard a man say "She was chubby, then she got hot, then she turned to skin and bones". Never seeming to realize that if Ms. Murphy had anorexia, that somewhere in the middle there she was sick, not just at the end.
ReplyI had people tell me that I looked great when I lost all my weight in college. But I had a few family members who said I looked sick. Since regaining the weight, those same family members said that I never looked better when I was thinner. I learned to never trust other's comments or opinions. I learned that my opinion counts.
I hope you've resolved your stomach issues and are on a path of wellness. Good luck.
ReplyThat sort of thing really makes me mad, as well. I suffered a bout of food poisoning a few years ago and lost 10 lbs in 3 days. Granted, it was mostly water weight/food weight, but people were like "You're so lucky! You lost 10 lbs! That's so cool!" Never mind that I was crapping my guts out and vomiting all the time for 3 days straight. It most certainly WASN'T fun and it's not like I really had 10 extra lbs to lose.
Right now, my aunt is facing surgery to remove her gallbladder. I hope the operation goes ok, but one of her Facebook friends said "Well at least you'll lose weight, right? That's always good". Sorry, but being really ill/getting surgery is not a good/permanent way to lose weight and people should stop associating the two. Being ill is terrible, it's NOT fun, and not everyone needs to lose weight. So stop the rude comments already!
ReplyOk dont lose anymore weight please, sounds like u just right now!
ReplyI hope your stomach issues are being resolved and you'll soon be feeling better.
I had the opposite happen. When I lost 100 pounds over two year’s time, down to my ideal weight, some people started asking me if I was sick. The even told me I should gain weight because I looked too thin (at 5'7" and 140 pounds!). To top it off most of the people who said this to me were thinner than I was! I decided it was all about perception. They had never known me any other way than being very overweight, and for me to be smaller sized just didn't fit their perception.
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