Conquering Emotional Eating: Lessons from Monica Seles

Monica Seles is without a doubt one of the best female tennis players of all time. Known for her relentless power and loud, multi-syllable grunts, Seles vaulted to the top ranked spot in women's tennis at the tender age of 17.
Even the casual sports fan knows how this story unfolds. A bizarre stabbing attack by a deranged fan would indelibly de-rail Seles' playing career and worse still, her emotional stability. The stabbing incident - compounded by the death of her father to cancer would spark an addiction to food.
Here are some quotes from Monica's story in an ESPN interview on how she kicked emotional eating. Seles has written a book on her experiences called "Getting a Grip".
I think for me, food was a way for me to deal with emotional trouble. As a top player, you have to keep your emotions in check. You think you can control everything. I was playing all these great players. If you asked me who was my most difficult opponent, I can tell you, it wasn't any of those players; it was my own battle with food because it was going on in my head while I would go out to play in front of 20,000 people.
My foot was in a cast, and I knew I did not want to gain another pound. I also knew whatever I was doing was not working and I needed a change. That was the "wow" moment, when I said, "Forget Monica the tennis player, the champion, the person that got stabbed, the youngest to win this or that; do this for Monica the person."
(The weight came off) once I stopped all the diets. The second half of my career, I was always put on a diet. Twelve hundred calories, measured exactly. I read every single diet book. I still have them. The Atkins, the food combination, the gluten-free ...
I definitely had an addiction to food. No question...It took me a year and a half to lose my 37 pounds, and I did it all by walking. No gym. So the irony is amazing from an athlete's point of view.
You have to figure out what's eating you emotionally. I love to eat. If I didn't, I never would have been as big as I was. But I don't eat the quantity that I used to because my emotions are in check. For women, the emotional connection with food is a very powerful one.
Interesting Sidebar take on today's Female Tennis Player
If you look at tennis, the girls have become much more attractive; they wear makeup. In my generation, you were a tennis player. It wasn't like you had to look a certain way. When the agents look at you, it's not just, "She is a great tennis player," it's, "Oh my gosh, she looks fantastic and she's a good tennis player." They realize it has to be the whole package.
Now 35, Seles says she always will live with some regret about what could have been but that she's at peace and, more importantly, at the helm of her life. Seles will be inducted into the International Tennis Hall of Fame this summer.
Source: ESPN.com. See the full interview + video here.
I think it is important more people link obeisity and addiction. But I wonder if fat people really want the two connected. My American cousin drank 6 beers every night after dinner and his extended family did an "intervention". As a fat guy speaking, addiction or not, I don't want my family or co-workers doing an "intervention" on me.
ReplyAddiction is exactly what it is. I grew up with an alcoholic mother. My behavior with food is exactly like hers with alcohol, except in one aspect - quitting. She was able to stop drinking and never have one more sip. I still have to eat.
I do not know if all obesity problems are addiction related, but I know a significant portion of them are.
ReplyI don't think people are addicted to the food, per se. I think it's more an addiction to using food as a way to deal with anxiety, depression, anger, etc.
ReplyIf you interpret things along that line, then you can just substitute in anything, even things like alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, etc. I don't think anyone is addicted to something just for that thing, but for what it does. Food doesn't really belong in that category, so long as someone is not just making the claim to be addicted rather than actually experiencing it.
ReplyI appreciate this book because my own struggle with my eating disorder was very similar to Monica's eating disorder. I worked out, but only so I could eat more food. I used food as a sort of an escape...I was in college and all of a sudden, I found myself struggling to get good grades (in high school, I found all my classes amazingly easy, even the AP and college prep ones). So when I got to college and found myself surrounded by thin, pretty, smart girls, I wanted to fit in. I got into a pattern of bingeing and purging via exercise. Now, I'm a lot more balanced in my approach to things. I realize that I still love to work out, but I choose things I actually like doing rather than just trying to lose weight. And I still love to eat, but I'm more relaxed about things...I try to practice moderation, eating lots of fruits, veggies, protein, and whole grains and some chocolate, coffee, and treats thrown in.
ReplyI guess it shows we are all vulnerable to letting food rule our lives ... if we let it. I am looking forward to reading her book.
ReplyI think anything can become addictive really. I believe addictions that are 'socially acceptable' (like food) are probably even harder to quit (psychologically).
I am no psychologist, so that is just personal opinion based on my own experiences.
Addictions and coping mechanisms that people come up with are so complex and can be so frustrating and difficult to understand.
Congrats to Monica for sharing her story! It must have been difficult, but hopefully it helps others in her situation!
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