Want to Change? Get a Support Team

Friends and family can help you by:
- Keeping you accountable
- Joining in with your exercise or eating plan
- Offering practical support
Keeping You Accountable
Find a buddy who can encourage you to keep making progress. (Maybe look for someone who wants your help with a big goal of their own - perhaps you'll ask them how their home study course is going, and they'll ask you whether you've filled in your food diary this week.)
Knowing that someone will be checking up on you can make all the difference when you're tempted to skip a gym session or eat a tub of ice-cream for dinner...
Some diet and fitness enthusiasts find that blogging helps keep them on track: telling hundreds of readers about your goals can really help you stick to them. You could also use a newsletter to family and friends, or a column in a local paper, to achieve something similar.
When I wanted to run my first marathon, I started writing a column about it in my local daily newspaper. The entire island of Guam (pop. 160K) knew about my goal. I couldn't back down, and even though my motivation came and went, I stuck with it and completed it.
(Leo Babauta, The Ultimate Guide to Motivation, Zen Habits)
Joining In With Your Exercise or Eating Plan
If you can get others - particularly family members - to join in with your exercise and/or eating plan, life becomes much easier. Maybe you're going to a gym class every Wednesday; if your sister comes too, you'll be less tempted to skive off.
If you're making a big effort to eat your five-a-day, get your partner and kids on board too. Make healthy eating a family goal - making you more likely to succeed, and benefiting the health of your loved ones.
Offering Practical Support
Sometimes, however hard we try to exercise and eat healthily, it can seem as though life's against us.
Perhaps you can't get to the gym because you've got small children to look after - can you swap childcare duties with a friend?
If you can't afford gym membership, why not ask friends if they've got any exercise equipment gathering dust in the attic? Lots of people buy exercise bikes or treadmills and never get around to using them.
Don't feel that you have to "go it alone". Family and friends will often be delighted to be asked to help - especially if it means they can take some of the credit for your success!
Has someone special supported you in fitness, health or diet goals? How did they help out?
I have found that accountability is "the missing link" in many weight loss programs, and once implemented becomes a driving force that propels you into taking consistent, daily action.
John Sifferman
ReplyFitness Professional
Hope is well, so be happy, because I receive many calls and I go running in the morning to lose weight
ReplyI think all of the above is great advice. Many people just need support to get it done. I was heavy when I was younger & lost the weight & did exercise on my own but I realized that I like planning my own food program & now I am very self motivated in terms of exercising. BUT, many people are not & they realize that & doing the steps above will help them with their weight loss goals & keep them accountable which is hard to do if you are not one to be self-motivated or you just never seem to stick with anything. You have to do what works for you.
ReplyAccountability is great! I found that posting in the various diet forums really helped my weight loss, and you can even join http://search.twitter.com/#twitterdiet to find Twitter folk who are on their own personal weight loss journeys too.
ReplyCompletely True. I have clients that are in different countries and I do weekly calls with them and guess what? They see results.
In fact, their results are just as effective as with the people I work with one-on-one. It all comes down to their motivation levels. If you are motivated, you will take action on your own and wont really need anyone there.
What do you guys think?
ReplyI forgot to reply to the question at the end of the post about whether anyone has helped with my fitness or health goals. I have to give a shout out to my husband. He has been the most supportive husband ever. I am pretty "OCD" about my exercise, diet etc. I really like to eat what I want to eat & I don't "join in" just because I am at a party or get together. I bring my own food to be safe plus I know what does & does not upset my stomach. This never bothers him. I also work out at some pretty crazy times & he supports me with that too!
Yes, I do "enjoy" too but it is what I prefer & what is important to me as a "fun treat or break" from my normal every day food plan. I don't want to waste calories just because....
I am so lucky to have the support of my husband. And yes, my friends are there for me too. They are used to me!
ReplyLike Jody, I'm very self-motivated when it comes to exercise. I like to see how far I can push myself and I love to test my limits, so working out is never really a problem for me. I actually have to schedule in rest days because I know that if I don't schedule them, I won't take them. As far as eating, I like to eat healthy foods and I'm not really that tempted by junk anymore. But that wasn't always the case...when I first started losing weight, I frequently whined about not being able to eat all the crap I used to eat anymore. But my friends that lived in my dorm with me were very helpful...one of my friends in particular was always cracking me up by saying things like "Holy cow, did you know that there are over 200 calories in ONE Pop Tart? Who even eats only one of those anyway? They're like, MEANT to be eaten 2 at a time. So you used to eat two Pop Tarts and a giant Frappuccino for breakfast, right? No wonder you were starving again by 10 am...Pop Tarts are insanely small. Now you get to eat a whole bowl of cereal and milk and a piece of fruit. Doesn't it make sense that eating this way is way better?" And she was usually right. It didn't hurt that she had a killer body and I wanted a nice body as well. She definitely helped motivate me to eat well that year.
ReplyThere's a website that I found featured in a local (Seattle) paper and it takes accountability and support groups to a different level.
I have lost 65 pounds in the last year and couldn't have done it without my support group. The website is called http://www.fatbet.net. Check it out!
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